It is not my intention to start an argument with anyone. My intention is not to start an argument in my comments. I will allow general discussion and disagreement. But if it gets out of hand, I will disable comments, and I will delete comments that are attacking and forceful. This goes for either side of the issue. Whether you agree or disagree, please feel free to discuss, but not attack. I'm not about attack here. I think you'll see that reflected in my writing. It's my way of doing things - my choices. I'm simply sharing the why's behind my choices.
It may not surprise you to hear that I have never used any form of hormonal birth control. Some of you may attribute my three children in three years to this fact. And to some extent, you are correct. I have used [and failed to use] various non-chemical birth control methods, which resulted in my first two pregnancies. My third pregnancy - little FlipFlop - was a little different. Let's just say, I made a choice when I knew I was walking on fertile ground.
When I got married I understood a little about birth control and the cycles of female menses. I believed this knowledge would provide all the necessities for avoiding pregnancy until Matt and I deemed ourselves "ready" [whatever that means!]. It is now very apparent to me that I did not understand completely, or even slightly, what I had gotten myself into.
Exhibit A: Oceana Faith.
While breastfeeding Oceana, I took my previous knowledge and trusted the fact that I was nursing. I also failed to follow through on birth control - as I believed I was "safe" based on previous information.
Exhibit B: Joshua Matthew
It was after having Joshua that I realized I needed to take the bull by the horns and figure my reproductive system out before I ended up collapsing into my own - rather worn out - uterus. I was given [many thanks by the way!] a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler (Natural Family Planning and Fertility Awareness Method) and spent the next few weeks perusing the book trying to sort out my fertility. We all know I have it [fertility that is] and I needed to know what exactly was going on!
I had just begun to understand the system when, as I stated above, I made a choice when I knew I was walking fertile ground. The resulting exhibit made me realize I did in fact have the system figured out, if not my resolve to follow the system and it's principles.
Exhibit C: FlipFlop
And this leads me to the question, "Why won't you just use the pill?"
Not only will I not use the pill, I will not use rings, shots, patches, IUDs, or anything else that releases artificial hormones throughout the body. It does not matter what hormones are released either. I will not use them.
The reason is quite simple. There is no form of the hormonal birth control that I believe is ethical. I have done my research. I have followed through on every option presented to me. Believe me - I wish I could use birth control pills, shots, rings, IUDs, etc - they are more reliable than a lot of options. However, the artifical hormones that are released by these variety of birth control methods can and do cause early miscarriages.
Hormonal birth control works in three ways:
1. It will try to prevent an egg from ever releasing,
2. It will cause cervical mucous to be "less than favorable" for fertility making it difficult for sperm to ever reach the egg, and
3. It will result in a inhospitable uterine environment.
Number one is perfectly acceptable in my book. If this was the only one, I'd be happy. I'd be popping those little pills with a cheeky grin on my face.
Number two is fine too. I'd still take them is this was the case.
However, number three works this way: The uterine lining where an already fertilized egg needs to implant to begin growing becomes "unfavorable" or "harsh". This means that the egg's already a little clump of baby bubbles (the future Amy or Jake) and now it can't find a suitable place to anchor for the remainder of pregnancy. This results in a fertilized egg dying and resulting in a very early miscarriage (but it will most likely look just like a regular period).
I must also add that I believe life begins when the egg and sperm meet - not when the fertilized egg implants in the uterine wall. Life has already begun when cells begin to split. From that first moment of fertilization, there is a little person there.
Because I believe life to be sacred and deserving of all respect, I cannot knowingly endanger my children. I would rather have 20 children, than know in my heart I was the perpetrator to their demise. I will not use hormonal birth control for these reasons.
For further information follow these links.
A Condensation of Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions? by Randy Alcorn
How Does the Birth Control Pill Work? by Tracee Cornforth at About.com