When I was pregnant with Oceana I didn't have the internet in my home. Instead I used it at the student center at my school. It was alright, but I never felt comfortable researching birth and pregnancy there, because the computers were in a high-traffic hallway. You never know who might walk behind you and look at your screen.
I blame Oceana's not-so-natural birth largely on this fact. I did not do research. My American OB didn't offer me any information about natural birth. I had quickly toyed with the idea of a homebirth, but soon realized that my miniscule appartment was not a good place to have a homebirth. It was an apartment as well with families on either side and above us. I would have felt the need to be "quiet".
I didn't research birth. I didn't ask questions. I didn't take a class. I just talked with a few friends. I don't think this was enough information. In fact I know this wasn't enough information. I wrote my "birthplan" like a good little girl (not knowing what to put on there). I then proceeded to keep said birthplan in my bag, never showing a nurse, doctor, or other important individual. From what I can remember, everything on my birth plan "don't" list, DID happen.
I was afraid to say no. I was afraid that something would go wrong, since I wasn't a doctor, and didn't know "better". I was afraid I would be annoying. I was afraid to make a fuss.
I know better now.
Electroluxxx asked if I'm looking into homebirth. And the answer?
"Um." I'm not sure what I want right at the moment. When I firt discovered I was expecting Joshua I did want a homebirth, but that quickly went down the tubes. I still had my natural birth without unnecessary interventions (an induction WAS medically necessary because Joshua was not going to stay breech and engage).
The desire to birth at home is still there. And I know my midwife does homebirths. I'm only 5 (ambulance) or 10 (my car) minutes away from the hospital, in the case of an emergency. My midwife has been "in business" for over ten years, I think it's more like twenty. I have no qualms about my midwife delivering the baby safely.
But I don't want to make up my mind just yet. I like this house, I feel comfortable in it. I also know that husbands can't sleep over at the hospital here (in fact they get kicked out at 8pm along with all other visitors). *Poo on them* But something is making me wait on that decision. It's definitely been on my mind.
So here's my question to you? Did you birth at a hospital, birthing center, home, or in the car on the way to the hospital? Did you have medical interventions? This is no judgment, and please don't turn the comments into a rage fest. I simply want to know. :)